How to move on from someone you are still in love with

This will be my last post on relationships.I figured we should talk about moving on from a relationship when you are still in love with your partner.I know from experience how hard it is to let go and move on.You can try to do your best to correct your mistakes and make it work but sometimes it is too late and you end up losing the person you love.It hurts like hell and the regret and the guilt of why you didn't do this or that will wreck you. The truth is it is so hard and painful to let go.
They say time heals all wounds and that is exactly what you should give yourself.You will need time to reflect and think of the mistakes you made. Time to fall out of love and accept that as much as you love your partner it was best to end it.You will need time to deal with the raw emotions that will follow.You will need time to go through all the six degrees of separation.You will need time to forgive yourself for your mistakes.You will need the time to also forgive your partner for any mistake he/she did.Time to sit and reflect why even with so much love the relationship did not work.Once you know why you probably won't make that same mistake in the future.
You will definitely need time to let go of the fantasy.This is probably one of the hardest things to do .It is like mourning. You have to start making new plans, forget those thoughts you had about spending your life with your partner.Forget about the birthday present you were planning to get him and how you had pictured the relationship would go in general.Because our mind is trying to heal our heart, the painful memories often get shifted to the background and we find ourselves remembering and longing for the good times. We forget who the person really was and idealize who we wanted them to be. A good strategy for getting past these moments is to simply write down every painful thing you can remember happening during the relationship and read it over to yourself while making the effort to vividly recall those memories until the painful feelings subside. The point here isn’t to stay angry but to remember the full truth of why the relationship ended. Eventually, letting go of these events will be an important part of the forgiveness and healing process, but in order to let go of something you must first acknowledge and accept that it happened.
The hardest part for most people is cutting communication.You will really miss them and once in a while, you will be overwhelmed with the urge to just pick up the phone and call them.You will feel empty and broken for a while.You will miss their voice or how they laugh.The first weeks are the hardest .You will need a support system to help you and to keep your mind off the urge to contact your ex.
The best part is with time, the pain will go away and you will soon be able to think about your ex and not breakdown .Someone new will come along with time and you would know what to do so as to not lose them again.Also, remember it is okay to love your partner, you can't control your heart and don't
push yourself so hard to forget them.Just take the time you need to really get over them.